Pre-Marital Counseling

EXPERIENCE LOVE EVENTS

PRE-MARITAL COUNSELING IN FLORIDA

We are registered as premarital course providers for the County Clerk of Courts as Sheena Brown (Foccus, Inc., USA). We are registered with five counties in Florida :

Broward

Hillsborough

Lee

Miami Dade

Pasco

Due to COVID-19, we are now offering premarital counseling services online, & via phone. Here’s how the process works:

  • Individually fill out premarital counseling questionnaire (download attachment). There is no right or wrong answer, all answers should be based on how you personally interpret the questions. If any question is not applicable to your situation, simply write N/A.

  • Email your answers, with a picture of your ID to sheena@ExperienceLoveEvents.com. The ID submitted should be the same as the one you will present at the Clerk of Courts. Remember to include a good day & time for our online or telephone session. Plan at least 40 minutes of uninterrupted time for our call. Many times, we are able to arrange a session on the same day as requested.

  • Remember: you cannot discuss or share your answers with each other until our phone session. We are a safe space – which means a judgment-free zone. Whatever is shared during our session is kept confidential.

  • Following our pre-marriage counseling session call, I will immediately forward you a certificate of completion. This certificate should be printed and taken with you to the Clerk of Courts (see courts that we are registered with).You will be given a discount for your marriage license, and they will also waive your 3 day wait period, so you can even get married on the same day, if that’s what you’ll like. If you need a marriage officiant, we can also officiate your ceremony. Marriage Officiant Services

Also read: Sheena Brown’s blogpost on the importance of Pre-Marital Counseling

    Personal Details

    RELATIONSHIP GOALS

    These first questions may be the most important. If you don't know why you're getting married or have different views of where you'll be in a few decades, it could cause problems down the road.

    MANAGE YOUR EXPECTATIONS

    Everyone has expectations about their lives. Therefore, everyone has expectations about what they think they should contribute to a marriage and what their spouses should contribute. It is vitally important to talk about what is expected in your marriage. Here are some expectation questions:

    CONFLICT AND COMMUNICATION

    You've probably heard that communication is key to a good marriage, and it's true. Your life together will be filled with important decisions, trying times, and some conflict. It's a natural part of spending your life with another person. You can start it off right by talking about how you'll handle these situations when they come up:

    BE ON THE SAME PAGE ABOUT HOUSING

    It may seem like knowing where to live is a “no-brainer” but it is still worth going over. Sometimes couples think they are on the same page about things then realize there may be some differences.

    CONSIDER SEX AND INTIMACY

    Sex is such a large part of a marriage. Sex allows married couples to become deeply connected to one another. If you are not on the same page when it comes to sex, it may cause issues in the future

    FAMILY

    Every family is different, so understanding how your future spouse grew up and their relationship with parents and siblings today will be very helpful. After all, you're each marrying into a new family.

    GET SOME FACTS STRAIGHT ABOUT CHILDREN

    Another huge topic to discuss is Children. I know that some people go into marriage with children already and some people do not. Either way, here are some questions to get some facts straight about children

    DISCUSS FAITH

    If you and/or your spouse are people of faith, it should be discussed. Especially if you and your future spouse do not follow the same faith. Here are some starters to go over:

    DISCUSS YOUR FINANCES

    Finance is probably one of the biggest issues in a marriage when both people are not in line with one another. To avoid a huge problem in your marriage, you and your spouse should discuss your past, present and future financial situations.

    DISCUSS YOUR FUTURE PLANS

    We all have dreams. While two become one once you’re married, your dreams don’t just go away. You are still very much your own person as well as a half of a marriage. Because of this, it is great to discuss what you both envision for the future.